Many gay men who enter the priesthood now find their gay lover both in the seminary and in the diocese where they both serve.
We have heard a lot this past year about the promiscuous gay seminarians of places like Maynooth.
But that is by no means the whole story.
Other gay men in the seminary and priesthood are not promiscuous at all and confine themselves to one gay seminarian / priest lover.
Personally I have no problem with this at all. How could I?
The only time this becomes a problem for me is when they sexually active / partnered gay priests condemn homosexuality from the pulpit or give other gay men a hard time in the Confessional for being gay.
And believe me this does happen. I have spoken to a number of gay lay men and women who were condemned for their lifestyle in the Confessional by sexually active gay priests or who had to sit in the pew and listen to a homophobic homily from an actively gay priest.
|SEXUALLY ACTIVE GAY CARDINAL O'BRIEN WHO CONDEMNED HOMOSEXUALITY|
This is wrong because it is hypocrisy. It is double standards.
As far as I am concerned what is good for the clerical gander is good for the lay gander too.
There are serving priests in every diocese in Ireland who are also partners. Sometimes the bishop knows about it and sometimes he doesn't.
Most bishops decide not to confront these gay priest partners as long as their relationship is kept secret and no scandal erupts.
I once had a visit from a parish priest of Westminster diocese in England who decided he could no longer live a "double life" and went to confess his situation to Cardinal Basil Hume.
Cardinal Hume reacted to his announcement by ordering tea and biscuits and by having a long, rambling conversation about everything under the sun.
When Hume was leaving the priest to the door of Archbishop's House, he squeezed the PP's arm tightly and said: "You will be discreet, Father, will you not"?
Cardinal Hume's "turning a blind eye" strategy was based on the old Irish saying: "If you see a pig with two heads - say nothing".
Of course Cardinal Hume had been an English Benedictine and had no doubt learned that a great number of his fellow monks were of "the antique disposition" and were in relationships with each other and others.
In many cases the bishops turn a blind eye for other reasons:
1. Because they are of the gay disposition themselves.
2. Because the seminarians / priests involved are handsome and appeal to the bishop's eyes.
3. Because if are not in a relationship with a priest themselves they have been in the past.
Have you ever noticed that very often bishop's priest secretaries are better looking young priests?
Only yesterday someone emailed me to tell me of two gay priest relationships in one prominent rural Irish diocese. That relationship started in the seminary and will continue in the diocese.
Sometimes in dioceses groups of gay priests gather together in "mutual admiration societies". They meet regularly in each other presbyteries and often go on holidays as a group - sometimes to well known gay resorts.
I have heard of these relationships in dioceses like Dublin, Meath, Down and Connor, Galway, Ferns etc. Dublin being a large diocese has its fair share of active gay priests.
The strange about all of this is that the official teaching of the Catholic Church and it's catechism.
"By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. .......masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action".
"Homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered. Homosexual persons are called to chastity.
Its hard to reconcile these teachings in a Church that:
1. Is full of sexually active bishops and priests - from Rome right across the world.
2. Seminaries in which seminarians have a better sex life than the ordinary man and woman in the street.
3. Dioceses all over Ireland and the world where priests have better sex lives than their parishioners.
4. The fact that the Catholic priesthood is fast becoming a gay profession.