I HAVE SPENT THE LAST FEW DAYS LISTENING TO / TRYING TO HELP A MAN IN HIS 40'S WHO WAS RAPED BY A PRIEST WHEN HE WAS TEN!
The young man and the priest are both from a Northern Ireland Catholic diocese. The victim has never spoken about his abuse before.
He was a ten year old altar boy at the time of the abuse. He was a particularly good looking boy and has retained some of those good looks.
After Mass one morning the priest dismissed the other altar boys and asked Kevin (not his real name) to wait behind.
The priest then locked the sacristy and church doors and went back to rape the frightened altar boy.
The priest felt the boy all over his body through his clothing and ran his hands through his hair.
He then pulled down the boy's blue jeans and underwear and abused the boys genitals with his mouth.
When he was finished that he turned the boy around and bent him over. He then lubricated his own penis and raped the boy until he bled!
He then cleaned the boy with the sacristy water and towel and sent him on to school.
The priest warned him not to tell anyone as no one would believe him.
He also was told that his parents would not believe him, that they would beat him for lying about the priest and that he would be sent to a home or a boarding school.
The boy only got the courage to tell his female cousin about this attack last week - 34 years after it had happened.
In the meantime the boy - trying to deal with his abuse and rape - became very angry and boisterous - got into minor trouble with the police - and has abused alcohol and drugs.
He is not in a good place these days.
He is very fragile and he needs to be helped to do something about all of this. But I know he will have to do it in easy steps and easy stages.
My hope is to get him to open up a little more about it all and how it has affected him.
I then want to accompany him to make a complaint to the police - whom he does not like.
I then want us to let the priest's dioceses know and get them to pay for therapy for him - as I have done before with others.
Let me assure my readers that the alleged priest in question is not in active ministry and therefore not in a position to hurt any others. For now I will not address the priest's identity or situation.
Were he I would have been on to the police - with or without the permission of the victim.
My priority now is to help the victim move from the bad place he is at to a better place.
I know how to do that - and I will not fail this victim in anyway.
But let it be a reminder to readers that there are still many victims out there who have yet to come forward.
Please keep Kevin and them in your thoughts and prayers.